Splitcoaststampers.com - the world's #1 papercrafting community
You're currently viewing Splitcoaststampers as a GUEST. We pride ourselves on being great hosts, but guests have limited access to some of our incredible artwork, our lively forums and other super cool features of the site! You can join our incredible papercrafting community at NO COST. So what are you waiting for?
You give someone a set of nice thank you cards as a gift and they send one of those thank you cards back to you, thanking you for the thank you cards?!
I gave my son's teachers a set of 6 very nice thank you cards as an end-of-the-year gift. I even thought about putting a note in there, telling them NOT to send one back to me, thanking me. I didn't want them to "waste" one on me. But, alas, I didn't and one came back to me. Oh well -- at least I can keep one as a sample if I want to make it later.
I have had the same experience soooo many times. I really don't want one of my cards back -- I want them to be able to use that card to send to someone else. And it seems it doesn't help to tell people, don't send me one as a thank-you. It's like they can't help themselves.
Nope, it doesn't bother me. I like to see them being used. My mom tends to send me my cards back for every occasion. She also has sent my cards to DH for his birthday.
And if they write in it, I can always cut the back off and remount it onto the front of a new card and use it again
This used to happen a lot with me.. For several years, I made cards to order, and as always, the client would send me one as a thank you.... I finally had to include a small note at the bottom of their reciepts asking that they not send me a thank you note, the thank you for me was the simple joy I got from making their order. They all got the hint- hth.lol
and NO THANK you at all. iam still so pissed! my husband said the other day we should invite them over for bbq. i have no intrest what so ever put an nother hour work to prepare food or anything for this family.
Quote:
Originally Posted by SunshineMama
Years ago, I made a boxed set of 25 thank you cards for a wedding gift.
I didn't get a thank you note AT ALL.....not one of mine OR a store bought one.
That was the last time I did that.;)
__________________ My SCS Gallery My blog : Pretty Pressings
Designer for Magnolia, Sweden, Lili of the Valley and Sir Stampalot
My Mom sent me one of the thank you cards from the set I made her for Mother's Day. I'd rather she hadn't wasted one on me, but how can you scold your Mom for that, LOL?!!!
and NO THANK you at all. iam still so pissed! my husband said the other day we should invite them over for bbq. i have no intrest what so ever put an nother hour work to prepare food or anything for this family.
Can't say as I blame you...that is a BEAUTIFUL present and the people who received it are horrible trolls who don't deserve anything more. :mrgreen::twisted:
Handmade creations are most appreciated by artists who are involved with creating handmade creations. Maybe that was your son's teacher's thinking. I also wonder if she wanted to show you right away that she intends to use your heartfelt gift. I would be sort of hurt if I ever found out someone threw away my creations without using them!
__________________ christine m.aka summer and weekend stalker DOT INK (My yadda yadda) Don't magnify your problem . . .Magnify your God
PROUD MEMBER OF THE REDDIVAS!
I made a set of Thank you cards for each my niece and nephew. They are horrible at not sending thank you cards so I thought this would be a great way to teach them and make it easy for them. I didn't get a thank you card OR a phone call or email that they received them.
Just think, the giftees (is that right?) is probably sitting there stressing... "should I send one of their cards back? If I don't, will they think I don't like it? What's the proper etiquette?"
Just think, the giftees (is that right?) is probably sitting there stressing... "should I send one of their cards back? If I don't, will they think I don't like it? What's the proper etiquette?"
It doesn't bother me.
I bet that is EXACTLY what they are thinking.....does Ms Manners cover this one? Maybe we should ask her!!
and NO THANK you at all. iam still so pissed! my husband said the other day we should invite them over for bbq. i have no intrest what so ever put an nother hour work to prepare food or anything for this family.
Unfortunately, some children are never taught to send thank you notes, so as adults they don't think about it... or, they were taught, and they just don't get it.
I expect thank yous, but don't hold a grudge if I don't get one. I just make sure next time I see that person I say something like: "Gee, didn't get a reply from my gift, so wanted to make sure you received it/liked it/whatever"... I know, passive aggressive! But, they get the point.
I always make handmade cards now for every occassion for each memeber of my family. My newphews, ages 12,14, & 16 have saved every card I have every sent to them, as well as my B & SIL. That makes me feel good.
I always get a call from my Mother to tell me how beautiful the card was that she received from me, and she too, saves every one.
At least they appreciate the time and effort it has taken me to create these cards.
Just think, the giftees (is that right?) is probably sitting there stressing... "should I send one of their cards back? If I don't, will they think I don't like it? What's the proper etiquette?"
It doesn't bother me.
My thought exactly. They are probably thinking if they go out to buy a thank you note, then you would think that they don't like the ones you made! LOL what a funny position to be in.
I'm not upset about it at all. It doesn't bother me -- my post was more of a "sarcastic" post -- lol. In fact, I fully expected to get at least one back. And I would like to know that they are using them -- I just didn't want them to waste one on me, as others have said. I would just rather have a verbal thank you when I hand them the gift than a card -- I'm just not a formal-type person. I made those for them to give to others because I know how teachers are about that sort of thing. I just hate that she now only has 5 to send out to other people, KWIM?
As far as not receiving a thank you at all, in some form or fashion, now that's just rude!
Claudia, I loved that baby gift set when you first posted it and I can't believe you didn't get a thank you for it!! That's just unbelievable!
To the OP, I gave my son's teacher a set a mostly thank you cards at the beginning of the school year (she had been my son's teacher the year before, too and I felt like I hadn't done enough for her that year!) She opened them and asked me right then should she send me one as a thank you and I told her no, but I appreciate the thought! Some of my friends in the class have told me they have received the cards from her, so I know she is using them at least!
My really good friend made me a set of gift cards out of beautiful photos she took while on vacation here, I just can't get myself to use them except the ones I don't like as much! I wish she would have given me copies of the photos instead, but I realize she probably forgot that I make my own cards now!
__________________ IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII*IIII* IIII*IIII*IIII* Take only photographs, leave only footprints.
I don't know what to think when I get one back.
The self-conscious part thinks, maybe they don't like it enough to send out but knew I would like it....
and then the other part of me just thinks it's dumb. I don't give my cards out to have them given right back!
Anyhow, I will have to start doing one of the ideas given above and just remount the front on a new card!
I think it is a sweet gesture when they send you back one of your own cards, at least they are being used! I had one teacher this year that sent me a thank you note (not one of mine) for every little gift I sent her, so I made sure and gave her a set of personalized thank you notes, figured she could send those instead of Hallmark ones..lol. She gushed all over me about them. It was so sweet at my daughter's senior banquet to be thanked in person for all the gifts and treats I have done throughout the year.
__________________ Lisa C., Mom to 3 great kids, 3 super dogs and an cat that thinks she is a dog! My Gallery
I CAN reuse it without cutting the front off. I put a linen-look "liner" inside (scalloped the bottom edges, too) and I stamped the Thank You on that and she wrote her note on that too. So I can just take that part out and replace it with another insert. Since I didn't stamp the sentiment on the front of the card, I can use it for any occasion. So that's a plus!
I always thought it was polite to use one of the cards someone gave you to thank them for giving you cards. Shows that you are using them? Wouldn't it be more insulting to use a store-bought card to thank someone for giving you hand made cards? Rethinking that now... I guess it depends on the card and the giver.
Yapha
__________________ Yapha I help people who are sick and tired regain their energy and improve their gut health so they can stop feeling exhausted every day and get back to feeling their best.
I gave my sons' teachers blank cards for Christmas and received one back from both of them. Didn't bother me at all, in fact, I might have been a little miffed if I hadn't received one back. I was happy to know they used them.
__________________ Julie my gallery
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Phillippians 4:13
My really good friend made me a set of gift cards out of beautiful photos she took while on vacation here, I just can't get myself to use them except the ones I don't like as much! I wish she would have given me copies of the photos instead, but I realize she probably forgot that I make my own cards now!
If I were your friend, I would be totally flattered if you told me that you would like reprints of the photos that she used for the cards because you have a hard time sending out the cards because you like the photos so much! I'd send you the reprints in a heartbeat!
Kimberly
__________________ "There is a very fine line between hobby and mental illness." -- Dave Barry
Just think, the giftees (is that right?) is probably sitting there stressing... "should I send one of their cards back? If I don't, will they think I don't like it? What's the proper etiquette?"
Art is intended to provoke an emotion from a total stranger. If you�ve succeeded in this, consider yourself an artist. Paper Shanks Blog. Love me or hate me, you are still talking about me
I was hoppin mad when my MIL sent me one of my own cards as a thank you for the cards too...but now that I've read everyone's comments - I guess it's not so bad. Would I have preferred a Hallmark or cheaper knock off? I probably would have complained about that too! At least I got a thank you.
:( Here's a thought--maybe the recipient hardly ever receives a gift or nice gesture from anyone (how sad that would be) and wouldn't have much opportunity to USE the thank you cards you gave her. She may have been thrilled at the idea of putting one of your cards to good use. Not everyone has people who do nice things for them.:( How kind of you to do such a nice thing.
and NO THANK you at all. iam still so pissed! my husband said the other day we should invite them over for bbq. i have no intrest what so ever put an nother hour work to prepare food or anything for this family.
Claudia, what a beautiful set! You put so much time and love into it. I am sure your friend loved it. You know her better than us, but maybe she is having a hard time adjusting with the new baby? After I had my second baby, it took me MONTHS to get out any thank yous of any kind. I had so much trouble with nursing, sleeping, post partum issues, etc. I never even sent out an announcement for him (gasp!). It seriously took me forever to get on the path of any kind of normalcy! Or maybe she has *new mom* head and thought she already thanked you!
Just think, the giftees (is that right?) is probably sitting there stressing... "should I send one of their cards back? If I don't, will they think I don't like it? What's the proper etiquette?"
It doesn't bother me.
i was thinking about it being a bad thing too, untill i read this answere, and i think that this is probably what most likely happened.
Don't ya hate it when...
