Sympathy Cards question

[Dragonwold]

Sadly to say I must make my first sympathy card this week. Does the gender of of the person who passed influence your card? Example masculine for a man who has passed? Or do you make it for the recipient?

My daughters godmother's husband passed of cancer today, and I am not sure whether I should do a masculine card with cars (he loved cars and working on them) or a more feminine one for his wife or go with generic?

Thanks for your answers and comments in advance

[felixdog]

I would say feminine or generic. Just my opinion
Karen

[Rainy Day Stamper]

I am sorry to hear you have to make a sympathy card. I always pour a little more love into them. I would probably go feminine for her.

[TeeGeeDee]

The vast majority of my cards, whatever the occasion, are designed with the recipient in mind. It's one reason I never seem to have any extras on hand as my inspiration comes from the purpose of the card.

I am sorry that you need to make a sympathy card but I am sure the love you put into its creation will offer comfort to those that are grieving.

[cardmaker2]

I also tend to make the card for the recipient, not for the person who has passed away. I might make a more masculine card for, for example, the husband of a lady who has passed away. But I find floral is always soothing and that can be thought feminine. SOmetimes I make my choice of colours be more masculine but not the image itself.

[creatingisfun]

I would probably do it more for her too.

[LeisaJane]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I am also one to make the card for the recipient.

My 'go to' set for sympathy cards is SU's Lovely As A Tree. It's not gender specific and can be colored to go with any season of the year. Good luck with your card.

[winnieu]

I normally make sympathy cards based on the person recieving them. If they are religious/church going etc. I usually make one with a lovely cross or praying hands image, if not (or I don't know) I use nature themes like flowers, trees etc.. I keep them fairly simple and focus on writing something heartfelt inside. That is what they will remember.

[Valli]

Just my experience, but the cards I've made with the deceased in mind have been very well received. Building a card around something that person loved is hard emotionally, but shows the recipient the connection I felt and helps with the sentiment inside, such as "I'll always remember his love of cars," etc.

[Holstein]

I too like (Valli) make the card with the deseased in mind. It's like your are sharing a good memory of the person with the family. It also makes it more personal. Anyway is the right way, because you are showing how much you care by making a special card. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

[NwP]

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Originally Posted by Holstein

I too like (Valli) make the card with the deseased in mind. It's like your are sharing a good memory of the person with the family. It also makes it more personal. Anyway is the right way, because you are showing how much you care by making a special card. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

This is how I feel, too. I agree that the most important thing is your time and the fact that you care. I love making cards, but I hate having to make sympathy cards.

[qvande]

I make my sympathy cards with the deceased in mind also.

[Dragonwold]

Lovely answers, thank you, off to case the gallery and get some inspiration