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My DH's birthday is next week and I'm torn because I know I should make him a card but he never appreciates it and it would just be much easier to go out and buy one. I should say he's not much of a card person anyway, store-bought or hand-made. I'm always having to drop hints that what I want most for the special occasions are cards.
But I'm interested, how do your 'better halfs' respond to the cards you make?
My DH loves nearly everything I make! I know if I make a really good card for someone, I have to make it a second time, because he'll keep the better one. *grin* This includes even "girlie" cards like the mother's day card I made for my mom.
I say, if you like making cards, just make a very quick and simple one for fun and give it to him if he doesn't care either way. You could save some money!
My DH will ask me to make cards for other people, but I don't really give any to him...we're not big on that sort of thing anyway, though. And when I made the CUTEST CARDS EVER the other night and asked if he wanted to see them, he said 'maybe later' and then it was never later. It doesn't really bother me, though...it's just not his thing. And he bought me to a drafting table to work on and is putting in space in his office for me to stamp, so I know he doesn't hate that I stamp.
I think my hubby is somewhat biased. He loves everything I create. I always ask him for some input (like what color or which stamp to use etc) and he is always happy to help me out. He's great!
My husband always asks me to make a card for him to give at work...and I think he likes the cards I make for him, although they aren't elaborate and more of a last minute type of thing. He also loves how his family raves about my cards...
That being said, he still doesn't get how "stamping" can be so enjoyable, and all I think about out (his words!).
My guy likes them too. I would make him one anyway - maybe he just doesnt show you how much he cares about them. Give it in love whether he likes it or not
My DH will ask me to make cards for other people, but I don't really give any to him...we're not big on that sort of thing anyway, though. And when I made the CUTEST CARDS EVER the other night and asked if he wanted to see them, he said 'maybe later' and then it was never later. It doesn't really bother me, though...it's just not his thing. And he bought me to a drafting table to work on and is putting in space in his office for me to stamp, so I know he doesn't hate that I stamp.
I agree with Suzy, make him one whether he likes it or not. Maybe try to use something (stamp or printed off the puter) to show him that it is made JUST FOR HIM (include something personal in it that hallmark wouldn't know about!).
My inlaws don't appreciate my cards so I have stopped making them for them altho I did continue for awhile even tho I knew they didn't really care for them. I tried to be the bigger person I guess. Now, they just get dollar store cards now - oh and I make DH pay for them too! heehee
I purchased a card for my hubby because things were crazy around his birthday, and the day before his birthday, my youngest (who is 6) told me that Daddy said he couldn't wait to see the card I'd created for him! I'm glad I found out beforehand so I could whip something up for him!!
My guy likes the cards I send him, but not always for the reasons I think he'll like them. For example, he liked the Christmas card I made last year because of the old buttons on it! Who would have known? But he liked his birthday card because of the motorcycle (he's a Harley owner).
I have another male friend who appreciates my vintage cards because he's kind of an old-fashioned guy.
My DH loves everything I make and even helps out! It's fun to be able to bounce ideas off him and get positive feedback. My 2yr old loves to help too so I think that helps to make everything a family experience!
I agree with Suzy, make him one whether he likes it or not. Maybe try to use something (stamp or printed off the puter) to show him that it is made JUST FOR HIM (include something personal in it that hallmark wouldn't know about!).
That's it! He's always saying, "I don't know why you don't just do it all on the computer. There's so much you can do." I downloaded those free papercrafts digi kits on WCMD so I'll do a card with those and tell him that he inspired me!
Thank you for the idea.
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My DH asks me to make birthday and Christmas cards for his three kids as well as any other event that comes along. I always make his Christmas, Birthday and Anniversary cards. He's not overly effusive but I know he likes them.
I knew that my dh was at least liking what I did when he did two things...
first he said "Wow...that IS good. Much better than your cards last year." (The same ones he said "Those are good" to last year!!!)
Then, he asked if I would make a card for his mom. (High compliment from him!)
He is not that into crafting AT ALL but he respects that I am and he is really good about letting me spend his money! lol!
My DH asked me to make a special Thank You card for one of his friends who sent him a nice arrangement after his recent surgery. He loved the truck from Classic Pickups that has the flames on the side so, of course, that was the stamp I used!
I'll show him my cards sometimes, and usually he compliments them.
oh....I should add...the ones my dh has appreciated the most were the humorous ones---I dont do "pretty" cards for him anymore......he LOVED my "Wanna See My Udders" card and my "Oh crap, i forgot your birthday card."
Go figure. So i am sticking to the funny from now on for him.
My DH just smiles and says "that's nice", so I stopped showing him for the most part. He'll appreciate that I thought to give him one and that I didn't go out and spend $$ on one when I have all that stuff to make one in my stamp room!
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My husband thinks this is the most stupid crap ever!! I made him one card...will NEVER do that again!!! But...ALL the relatives think the same thing..they just don't get it...once my MIL ask where I bought my "construction" paper!!!! I just make cards for myself...they all sit here in their little boxes...I never actually mail them to anyone....it just gives me something to do...
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My DH's birthday is next week and I'm torn because I know I should make him a card but he never appreciates it and it would just be much easier to go out and buy one. I should say he's not much of a card person anyway, store-bought or hand-made. I'm always having to drop hints that what I want most for the special occasions are cards.
But I'm interested, how do your 'better halfs' respond to the cards you make?
My dh gets very excited, always asks what I have made and doesnt even get mad when I wake him up late at night to look at a card:rolleyes:
He gives me honest encouragement, praise and constructive criticism.
My hubby is so awesome! Last night he stayed up late to make all of the cuts on the 30+ invitations I'm making using Julie Buhler's revamped Criss-Cross pattern. He is always so complimentary, encouraging and excited about all of my creations. He never gripes about the amount of money I spend because he see's that I truly need to be creating. I appreciate him so much. I'm a lucky, lucky girl!
My DH loves the cards I make for him. His eyes light up and he smiles really big and then says something profound (like "How cool!"). He loves action cards (waterfall, spinner, etc.). I made him an anniversary card in August with Crab & Company and he got a big kick out of it.
My DH loves everything I do as well - he also gives me constructive comments as well, like, "That's really, really cool babe. Did you think of doing ................ on the next one you make?" He's also taken my cards into his work and shown his workmates and I've overheard him on the phone boasting to his Dad and his friends about what I do etc. He helped me out heaps when I cleaned out my craftroom a month or so back and was so pleased at what HE'D done in there, that he was referring to it as HIS craftroom - he's adorably funny!!! Just last week, he asked me to make a special card for one of his workmates. This guy's initials are SP and if anyone knows anything about the recent Simpsons Movie (we're huge Simpsons fans - notice my username - our daughter's name is Maggie!!!!), then you'll know all about Spider Pig. Well, DH has nicknamed this workmate Spider Pig because he has the same initials - I had to make a card with a spider web and a pig in the middle of it. Not easy, but hey, I did it and his workmate LOVED IT!!!!! At the end of the day though, I make cards because I love making cards. I give cards because I love giving cards. If the receiver doesn't appreciate it, then that's their bad luck - but I'll never stop making them - and more importantly, I'll never stop giving them!!!!!
Maybe try a new technique that you've been wanting to try for a while - use it as an "experiment" card!!!! Anyway, good luck!!!!!
My husband thinks this is the most stupid crap ever!! I made him one card...will NEVER do that again!!! But...ALL the relatives think the same thing..they just don't get it...once my MIL ask where I bought my "construction" paper!!!! I just make cards for myself...they all sit here in their little boxes...I never actually mail them to anyone....it just gives me something to do...
Are you kidding?!? Your gallery is GORGEOUS!! Send 'em this way, I'll appreciate them all day!!
My DH is pretty supportive. He has complimented me on many, telling me how my skills have improved much over recent months! He likes to offer suggestions too, which I take into consideration. I am sure he gets sick of seeing cards, seems like I show him EVERY card I make after I do it. And he does enjoy receiving them. He tells me often "You should make a card for "so and so" for "so and so occasion". its pretty sweet. :-)
let's put it this way, my DH says i'm not allowed to buy cards at the store anymore and that the only cards that are bought are the ones he will give me on special occasions! he won't even let me walk down the card aisle. what a weirdo. i love my weirdo.
also, i can make him the most awful card and he'll love it. lol.
My bf is awesome about my crafting - he knows I need to have it as a creative outlet. He's also great about constructive criticism - he doesn't just say "that's nice" to everything - if he thinks something didn't work, he'll say so, and explain why. He loves that I make cards, and loves giving cards that I've made. :cool:
My husband loves the cards I make especially for him. We love to laugh, so they are always humorous, not mushy!
He always asks me to make cards for his family, and they appreciate my efforts, too! My SIL actually framed a card I sent to her using 'Do the Hula'!
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My boyfriend always tells me he doesn't need a card for his birthday, but he keeps it when I make it anyway. He also pretends not to be interested when I'm stamping, but if I'm having trouble coming up with something, he sometimes comes in and offers an idea. And he always wants cards to use the cards I've made to give to people. He's also a good sport about looking at the cards I've made when I'm finished, even if he'd rather just be watching football.
One of the first cards I made and showed my DH he looked and said did you mean to make it crooked. I laughed and said of coarse I did. He works in percision and can see if something is off to any degree. Now everything I show him he is smart enough not to say anything but his head always cocks to show he sees that it's always just a tiny bit off. I am getting better, but hey. He is very supportive and knows it's something I have to do.
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My dh had hurt feelings that I didn't even realize he had, because I did not make him one for our anniversary-on time. I made it late. He had been waiting to see what I came up with for him. He loves em' Gives compliments and stares without saying something for a couple of minutes at some others. Those are the ones I ask what does it need or should I do different. Over all, I could never forget to give him one of mine as long as I am doing this stamping craft. He'll be sad:(
My husband thinks this is the most stupid crap ever!! I made him one card...will NEVER do that again!!! But...ALL the relatives think the same thing..they just don't get it...once my MIL ask where I bought my "construction" paper!!!! I just make cards for myself...they all sit here in their little boxes...I never actually mail them to anyone....it just gives me something to do...
Ok, I'm going to send you my addy, because I would love to receive one of your cards!
Regarding DH, he now asks me to make cards for special occasions for friends/co-workers (I still have to work on training him to give me more than 6 hours notice, but that's another issue). My DH is an engineer, so he really looks at the layout, and sometimes gives suggestions. Like a lot of the other posters, I suspect that he likes pretty much everything I do. He is definitely happy that I have a creative outlet, and supports my hobby (he built a desk/workstation and added shelving to one of our spare bedrooms so that I would have a work space that was conducive to work (he even suggested co-opting the spare bedroom that had a southern exposure with a full wall of windows for natural light as opposed to the spare bedroom that had one tiny window).
Regarding the OP, and some of the other posters who feel that others don't appreciate their craft. Unfortunatley, not everyone does understand what it takes to make a high quality card; I've had mothers toss the card in the trash right in front of me after ripping the envelope open for a child's birthday. I used to get upset about it, but then took some time to thinks about why I give cards in the first place (whether hand made or purchased), and the answer was that it makes me feels good - I spend the time because it is something I enjoy doing for someone else. Just my thoughts.
YES I don't have a DH and my wonderful boyfriend (of 7 years) loves my cards, uses them, picks out stamp sets w/me, and at times is fascinated w/the mechanics/techniques of the cards. (The criss cross card, flip flop, etc) All of this is amazing to me because my WBF is an artist, graphic designer, web designer and photographer. He also cracks up when reading about the latest "trends", like rub ons, because that was what the graphic industry used 20 years ago before the advent of computers!
Jimmy only sees the cards when I'm finished, leaving the design process up to me. On a couple of occassions I've asked for advice on color or how to make a drop shadow. On one occasion I brought down a finished moutain scene (deer drinking from a stream) that I had water colored and asked him to put his finishing touch on it. I really wanted him to do whatever it is that he does to make things look professional (I have no idea how to describe this, it's an artist thing, they put a "." in the right place and it looks fantastic!) and he left the card alone. He said I did a great job and he wouldn't add a thing. I was amazed!
So YES! my man appreciates what I do, in reality he RESPECTS what I do and enjoys the results of my creative process.
"Hell no" comes to mind :-). DH does not care about my cards or scrapbooking, except when it makes money for the the family. Other than that, I believe he finds it to be a nuisance.
Do your men appreciate your cards?
