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My Mom and I have an up and down relationship. In the spirit of Christmas last year, I went all out and made her a 50's style Christmas card with a lot of embellishments and it got quite a few compliments from my family and friends before I put it in the envelope to send it out. Well, the holidays come and go and Mom is freezing me out. Not one word about the card. Finally, in January I ask how she liked it. She says, 'What card?'. I later find out that I had accidentally put my old address on it (I used to live directly across the street!) and the guy who bought my house received the card! He kept it all through the holidays and dropped it off with my Mom about mid-January! I don't know what was worse, the fact I sent it to the wrong address, or the jerk who kept it! Agh!!
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You and DeeAnn are both inspiring for situations well beyond that of cardmaking/crafting. I'm coming to the realization that recently I have been giving far too much thought to other people's opinions than I ever have in my life - and facing certain situations, it can just overshadow otherwise fun times. Life is too short! Letting go of negative situations is a treasure. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
Phantom- You are so sweet. You made me cry. Thank you.
Just had a facepalm moment - DH on the phone to his brother - "We forgot your anniversary" Ugh - no. "we" didn't. "We" had a sick dog. But they still got a pretty card even if I do say so myself, I certainly wouldn't be upset to receive it. :lol: Wonder if they thought the envelope writing was pretty. :lol:
I bet your writing was gorgeous! I hope your furbaby feels better.
I love that everyone is willing to share their awkward moments - and really feel for the OP. Maybe your card was so well done that it never occurred to her that it was handmade.
My family and close friends expect me to use stamps I've illustrated. Anything I show my husband, he says, "Is that yours?" But I did recently make a thank you for my hairdresser because she always does such nice work and I appreciate her talent. I used a Waltzingmouse Stamps set - one of the art deco sets, and it reminded me of her. Plus I just love everything WMS. When I saw her next, she told me how much she liked the card and said "Oh, I told everyone you drew that!" :shock: Uh-oh! I said, umm, nope... that was from another stamp artist and business owner whom I greatly admire. The next time, I'll use one of Claire's copyright stamps! Psst... Claire Brennan... if you're reading this: That was a HUGE compliment!
Does this count? I got off on the wrong foot with my MIL (still am actually) so I tried to kiss up and made her a fancy Christmas card with a lot of embellishments that took A LOT of time and effort. She was offended that I "cheaped out" and gave her "homemade junk" instead of spending money on a store bought card. She did go on and on about the card her adult daughter made for her. ....cue awkward silence...
OMG, are you kidding me? That's awful! Unbelievable how rude and insensitive people can be. Sounds as if she just was looking for an excuse to put you down.
OMG...what remarkable and heart touching stories .....wow.....just makes me want to line people up and smack them like the Three Stooges.whoop whoop whoop whooop I also laughed out loud about the personal time with the highlighter and "she doesnt think you are cute!". LMAO I want to "like" every post!
I stamp the back of my cards with my initials and made it known in the beginning that I was making them...people know. I told them I was practicing on them. Most of the people dont send cards so they are happy they get one of any kind.
Do you guys do that? Put an identifier on them? I am now looking for the right custom "handmade by (me)" stamp. The Stampin Place has a lot of them, just fyi.
Not all Christmas cards have a company name on them. People can be really clueless! Because they are not crafty or talented...their brains dont ever go that way/consider the possibility.
I choose to believe that your cards were SO nice they assumed they were professional ones from the store.
I stick my foot in my mouth so often it's remarkable I am able to walk.
I respect and admire the stories of speaking up and walking out. Good for you!!! At some point you may be forced to be around them like at a wedding. It's enough. We only live once. Dont waste precious time on even thinking about them. It empowers the bad people who are going through their lives without giving us a second thought if we think about them.
For the back I use an old fashioned JustRite round stamp block and a small alphabet. It has my blog details around the outside in the tiny alphabet and the year in the middle.
Do you guys do that? Put an identifier on them? I am now looking for the right custom "handmade by (me)" stamp. The Stampin Place has a lot of them, just fyi.
I choose to believe that your cards were SO nice they assumed they were professional ones from the store.
I had a very small stamp custom made with my name (1/2" x 1"). It was not expensive, so yes, I do stamp the back of my cards.
Also, when someone tells me they thought my card was store bought, I'm insulted! Store bought cards don't have nearly the personality of a hand made card!
__________________ Debbie "Make it work, people." - Tim Gunn My Gallery
Then I take the position that they dont have the sense or grace God gives a tick and you should not give a darn what they think. I agree with the pearls before swine said above.
I dont expect people to keep my cards but I sure as heck dont expect to be insulted over them either.
With so many "hand made" cards being sold now (read hand assembled maybe) people could get confused easily. Huge displays and labels on them saying hand made but you and I know better.
Oooh...dont be insulted Debbie-people mean well with that remark. To them they are saying it is SO good you could sell them! As in, it is better than what they see for sale!
Back a few years ago, everyone seemed to be using glue dots so I got on the bandwagon and bought a pack that I picked up at the supermarket. I made about 10 of the same Christmas card which was a case of THIS awesome card by Heather Freeman.
I had cut the pieces of cardstock and attached them onto the card base with the glue dots and thought my cards looked great I went over to my nephew's home for Christmas lunch and they opened their card and popped it on their window sill just near where we were eating. They were very appreciative of my card and I just glowed.
Whilst we were eating lunch, all the elements started slipping and by the end of our 2 hour eating marathon, half of them had fallen off. Santa's face looked like he had been punched! The glue dots were NOT strong enough - oops :oops::oops: After lunch, I grabbed the card and tried to re-stick the elements which wasn't very successful as the bits just kept slipping down. It was summer (being in Australia) so the hot weather didn't help.
I wondered how many of my other cards that I had mailed ended up the same way - or maybe the bits fell off in the envelope and the recipients thought it was some sort of WEIRD jigsaw puzzle card! I can kind-of laugh now and put it down to experience with using the right glue!
I had something very similar happen to me! I made my wedding invitations and they were the kind with pockets. I used PTI paper which is super thick, so I made SURE to test my adhesive before sending. Well I dropped them into a post box first thing in the morning when it was COLD out and wouldn't you know, my mom got hers and the pocket had come off! I consoled myself by convincing myself it was just hers. I was so proud of those too. lol
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I had something very similar happen to me! I made my wedding invitations and they were the kind with pockets. I used PTI paper which is super thick, so I made SURE to test my adhesive before sending. Well I dropped them into a post box first thing in the morning when it was COLD out and wouldn't you know, my mom got hers and the pocket had come off! I consoled myself by convincing myself it was just hers. I was so proud of those too. lol
It kills me when I watch YouTube videos of DT members and they just use a little bit of adhesive (a dot in each corner sort of thing).
Maybe I use too much but I have had that card fall apart in the recipient's hands in front of my eyes. And I won't even get started on the glue stick mess I sent my cardies!
... they dont have the sense or grace God gives a tick...
I love that saying! I never heard that before and it made me laugh.
Ugh, just reading the ones about the adhesive letting go made me cringe. When I started making cards I was using Tombow/Snail. There must have been a few cards that fell apart before the recipients got them, because I actually watched a card fall apart on my desk that was put together with that stuff. How embarrassing. What's even more frustrating is that I had to go back and re-glue so many scrapbook layouts.
OMG...what remarkable and heart touching stories .....wow.....just makes me want to line people up and smack them like the Three Stooges.whoop whoop whoop whooop I also laughed out loud about the personal time with the highlighter and "she doesnt think you are cute!". LMAO I want to "like" every post!
I stamp the back of my cards with my initials and made it known in the beginning that I was making them...people know. I told them I was practicing on them. Most of the people dont send cards so they are happy they get one of any kind.
Do you guys do that? Put an identifier on them? I am now looking for the right custom "handmade by (me)" stamp. The Stampin Place has a lot of them, just fyi.
Not all Christmas cards have a company name on them. People can be really clueless! Because they are not crafty or talented...their brains dont ever go that way/consider the possibility.
I choose to believe that your cards were SO nice they assumed they were professional ones from the store.
I stick my foot in my mouth so often it's remarkable I am able to walk.
I respect and admire the stories of speaking up and walking out. Good for you!!! At some point you may be forced to be around them like at a wedding. It's enough. We only live once. Dont waste precious time on even thinking about them. It empowers the bad people who are going through their lives without giving us a second thought if we think about them.
I have 2 stamps that I use on the back of my cards.
One is "Cards made by Leslie"
The other says "Better than Hallmark" I have received a few comical remarks about this stamp
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You can insert any critter or item you want in that phrase. (a rock, a stick, etc) My current fav is "Dumb in a can" that I learned this year-and interpret as something so "purely dumb" it could be packaged and sold.
Gee! I saw a stamp like that hallmark one and could not think how I would use it. Never occurred to me to put it on the back! Not "can worthy" but pretty darn silly of me!
It kills me when I watch YouTube videos of DT members and they just use a little bit of adhesive (a dot in each corner sort of thing).
Maybe I use too much but I have had that card fall apart in the recipient's hands in front of my eyes. And I won't even get started on the glue stick mess I sent my cardies!
Add me to the way too much adhesive club. My cards are not falling apart. I even glue the self adhesive rhinestones and pearls to the cards. I won't even get started on Jolee's stickers. The adhesive that falls apart. We have to pay $3-5 for an embellishment that falls apart. Can you tell I had a Jolee's cussing tonight? I made something the other day and used three types of adhesive on it.
Does this count? I got off on the wrong foot with my MIL (still am actually) so I tried to kiss up and made her a fancy Christmas card with a lot of embellishments that took A LOT of time and effort. She was offended that I "cheaped out" and gave her "homemade junk" instead of spending money on a store bought card. She did go on and on about the card her adult daughter made for her. ....cue awkward silence...
For my mom's birthday I gave her 25 of my most beautiful cards, only to have her say, "let's sell them." The previous year I made her Christmas cards and all her response was, "now it's going to cost me extra in postage." I'm never giving her cards to give away again.
So, in the summer where everyone we know (slight exaggeration) moved house. I waited and waited for an address from the MIL to send a card to a family friend close enough to be called "Auntie". As her birthday is today, I was completely confident in redistributing the cards I had made and sending "her" card to another Aunt and the Aunt's card to my SIL (you keeping up?) for her birthday in October. My husband only drops me in it on the phone and tells his mum (THE MIL) that I have a card but no address for "Auntie". :shock:
So now I have an address and need to make a belated card...:rolleyes:... Just when I thought I was on top of things.
On the plus side I remembered I had done an extra sewn background for another card so I am going to rework that as our Auntie used to sew for her living. I think she will like the acknowledgement. She really is a jewel.
For my mom's birthday I gave her 25 of my most beautiful cards, only to have her say, "let's sell them." The previous year I made her Christmas cards and all her response was, "now it's going to cost me extra in postage." I'm never giving her cards to give away again.
I'm sure your Mom meant, "These cards are so lovely that I can made a boatload of money selling them." Right?
Dea
